The 1st’s in Sobriety

Let’s try this again….. sorry about the “technical” err, user difficultiesūüėČ…

Over the past 11 months a lot of stuff has happened, a lot of firsts and without a drop of alcohol.¬† Events that in the past would have required a drink, or 2 or 4…. you get the idea.¬† The divorce, a breakup, financial strain, birthday parties, summer festivities, class reunion, the day-to-day hassles and hiccups life throws at you, when¬†I used to respond with, “I need a drink!”, and most recently, first dates.

I can proudly and confidently say that I got through the good, the bad, and the ugly with my sobriety intact.¬† To the “normie”(what we alcoholics call the normal social drinker), this may seem like no big deal, but to those of us who are recovering alcoholics, it is a very big deal.¬† As each event or situation comes my way and my sobriety remains intact, my confidence grows, and I grow more peaceful and content within.¬† Spiritual growth perhaps?

When I say confidence, I don’t mean cocky, I am not, nor do I want to become complacent.¬† My sober life today includes a core group of special women, including an awesome sponsor, who I am in constant contact with each and every day.¬† This group has¬†my back always, and vice versa.¬† They will and have called me out¬†on my shit.¬† Going into events or situations, I always have¬†a¬†plan, including exit strategies.¬† I know when to decline an invitation if I don’t think it will be ¬†“safe” or comfortable for me.¬† I realize that some may not understand¬†my reasoning, others may be offended, but my sobriety comes first and foremost.¬† Yes, even before my kids, (gasp), because if I do not protect my sobriety, if I decide to test the¬†waters, so to speak, I would jeopardize and most likely lose everything that I have worked so hard to obtain and achieve.¬† The most ¬†important ¬†being the relationship with my kids.

So as we are in the “throws” of the holiday season, and I¬†am venturing into the world of first dates, I am relying on all the tools I have collected over the last several months.¬† I must say that with each situation and or event that is¬† a “1st” in sobriety, I feel so incredibly grateful and¬†humbled.¬† I¬† did this, I am doing this, and I will continue to do this, God willing.¬† And maybe, just maybe, my experiences, my story, can help another who maybe struggling.

Sobriety aint¬†so¬†badūüėä